Hmm, it’s time to talk to married couples, both husband and wife. I heard my Pastor say a long time ago, before I got married that no matter how good a man is. He is not likely to be more than 80% of all a woman wants in a man. He also said no matter how good, nice or beautiful a woman is, she is not likely to be more than 80% of what a man wants in his woman. This got me thinking and I realize that as humans we always expect more from people than they could actually give.
When I was young I had a Super Mom , who had a great business, was educated, caring and loving and I felt I was the luckiest girl in the world to have a mom like that(still do*winks*). One day, a girl’s mom came to visit when we were in primary school and she was looking so fly. She stayed abroad and came to Nigeria on a visit. She didn’t look like a Mom, she looked like a model and everyone in class peeped out the window to view the woman, who wore a hug, tight fitting jeans, and hoop earrings. At that moment I wished my Mom was that hip. I felt I would be more proud of her, though I don’t think that way again. That made me know that no one can fully satisfy you among humans.
A man went to a Pastor to complain about his wife of 15 years. He sat down in the office and stated his complaints.
“ My wife does not clean the house, she is so dirty and the house is always rough with clothes everywhere. She doesn’t sweep, or clean. In fact I will divorce her.” The Pastor smiled and asked him a question
“,How long has she been that way?”
“Since we got married. In fact even while we were dating she was that way. I always felt she would change.” He replied
“Then why did you marry her?” the pastor enquired
“Well, she is beautiful. Has a great attitude, very relational, respectful, loved by my family, a great cook, great helper, and a very great lover of God.” He replied
“Wow,” the pastor replied “,so you are ready to throw all those wonderful traits away just because she can’t keep the house clean. You are not serious. I will encourage you to get a maid who will help you clean the house because the woman you described is 80% and it doesn’t make sense for you to throw her away just because of the 20% she lacks.”
I am telling you the same thing now. It doesn’t make sense for a woman to ask for a divorce because her husband is not romantic, what about the other good traits he has like being a provider, lover, helper e.t.c. The grass always looks greener on the other side. Imagine if the man above goes ahead to divorce his wife and marries his secretary who is very neat but is not beautiful, nice, respectful, or does not even love God. It means he left the 80% package he has for someone who can only offer him the 20% he lacks. At the end of the day he looses.
It is high time we stopped comparing ourselves with the Jones’ and the Matthew’s next door. Your spouse is a different person. If your wife doesn’t have or do what the next door neighbour’s wife does. I can assure you there are some good traits she has that the next door neighbour admires. If your best friend’s husband fly’s her to various part of the world, you better thank God that your own husband can drive you to the supermarket or take you to Ibadan. I can assure you there is something he has that your bestie’s husband lacks.
Research has it that 2nd Marriages are more liable to be dissolved than first marriages because most times a Man remarries based on what he doesn’t see in his first wife forgetting that all the things he took for granted might not be in wife no 2. Let’s celebrate our spouses strength and work together to reduce his weaknesses because in our bid to attack the weaknesses we forget to celebrate the strengths. So let’s do this together. Get a sheet of paper and Biro and write out what you celebrate in your spouse (the thing that attracted him/her to you in the first instance can be of great help). After we do this lets make it a point of duty to say thank you for the kind acts and as for the horrible acts let’s tackle it in prayer before we approach him/her about it.
Love you,
Aderonke Taiwo.
19/6/2013
NB; NEVER EVER LEAVE 80% FOR 20%. IT IS VERY UNWISE.
Nicely put. Many thanks.
how to write an effective argumentative essay how to write a thesis statement custom writing website
You actually reported it fantastically! https://definitionessays.com/ homework checker
Truly quite a lot of amazing material.
describe yourself college essay essay college scholarships professional writing help
You actually revealed it adequately.
essay paper writing help https://ouressays.com/ professional writer services
Thank you. Lots of information.
how to write an essay essay https://ouressays.com/ assignment writing service usa
Nicely put. Regards.
help 123 essay essay writer best professional resume writing services
Really plenty of good info.
how to write good essays https://essayssolution.com/ top online resume writing services
I like the efforts you have put in this, regards for all the great content.
irbesartan medication irbesartan canada irbesartan for sale
flonase nasal spray nz flonase nasal spray 50 mcg without a prescription flonase nasal spray online
zocor 10mg usa cheap zocor zocor tablet
calcium carbonate 500 mg united states calcium carbonate 500 mg generic cheapest calcium carbonate
amaryl no prescription amaryl generic amaryl 2 mg uk
fexofenadine united kingdom fexofenadine prices fexofenadine coupon
ashwagandha caps purchase cost of ashwagandha caps cost of ashwagandha caps
flonase nasal spray 50mcg without a prescription flonase nasal spray 50mcg online flonase nasal spray no prescription
zofran 8mg pharmacy order zofran 4mg zofran 8 mg cost
irbesartan united kingdom buy irbesartan cheapest irbesartan
buy symbicort inhaler 160/4,5 mcg symbicort inhaler 160/4,5mcg no prescription how to buy symbicort inhaler 160/4,5mcg
The point of view of your article has taught me a lot, and I already know how to improve the paper on gate.oi, thank you. https://www.gate.io/zh-tw/signup/XwNAU
order irbesartan irbesartan 150 mg prices irbesartan pharmacy
terbinafine price terbinafine 250mg tablets terbinafine uk
buspar online buspar generic cost of buspar
their explanation
pyridium tablet buy pyridium pyridium prices
loperamide over the counter loperamide for sale loperamide otc
why not look here
leflunomide nz leflunomide prices cheap leflunomide
cozaar 25 mg coupon cozaar without a doctor prescription cozaar tablets
how to buy amaryl how to buy amaryl 2 mg how to buy amaryl
nortriptyline without a prescription nortriptyline over the counter nortriptyline 25mg prices
mestinon generic mestinon 60mg australia buy mestinon
buy tricor medication buy tricor 200mg tricor 160mg usa
pyridium 200mg generic cheap pyridium 200mg pyridium generic
where can i buy buspar buspar cheap buspar canada
purchase aspirin generic levoflox for sale imiquimod order online
where can i buy buspar buspar purchase buspar uk
purchase etodolac online mebeverine 135mg canada cilostazol 100 mg us
how to get prasugrel without a prescription dimenhydrinate 50mg usa buy detrol 1mg for sale
vasotec 10mg canada casodex 50mg us buy duphalac without a prescription
catapres 100 mcg coupon how to purchase catapres catapres 100mcg price
telmisartan 80mg uk order telmisartan 80mg generic order molnupiravir 200mg generic
cheap cephalexin
buy cenforce without a prescription purchase chloroquine sale aralen 250mg canada
Your article gave me a lot of inspiration, I hope you can explain your point of view in more detail, because I have some doubts, thank you.
allegra 120mg over the counter
online slots for real money play roulette for free ventolin tablet
cost methylprednisolone buy adalat 10mg triamcinolone 4mg oral
order pamelor 25 mg pills buy pamelor for sale acetaminophen drug
lexapro 10mg tablet
write my cover letter for me teach me how to write an essay buying a term paper
oral cleocin 300mg cleocin cost purchase fildena generic
purchase catapres for sale order catapres generic order spiriva 9 mcg generic
oral medication for severe acne will pimple get wase when taking fulcin order oxcarbazepine 600mg for sale
uroxatral canada best allergy medicine for rash prescription heartburn medication names
cheap sleeping pills online hair loss treatment fda approved semaglutide prescription no office visit
how to buy cyproheptadine periactin uk ketoconazole 200mg pills
best cures for stomach ulcers different antiarrhythmic drugs get online prescription for uti
best otc for heartburn relief what is unasyn used for what makes farts smell like sulfur